The Ultimate Guide to Creating Your Dream Self

Are you ready to call in your higher self?

Do you ever wish life had a character customization screen, that you could just scroll through a list and choose your strengths? Confidence: Max Level, Morning Routine: Flawless, Stress: Nonexistent, and boom, your dream self is ready to go. This post is about creating and calling in that avatar. Think of it as a practice to call in your higher self. If you don’t know who your higher self is, great! We’re going to build her today. Designing your dream self isn’t just a thought exercise; it’s a game plan. This practice has been a total cheat code for leveling up my life and manifesting what I truly want, so naturally, I want to share it with you!

What I’m going to be talking about today is how to create your dream-self avatar. Our minds are so powerful. If you take a moment to look around, you'll realize that everything in your life (whether you wanted it or not) has been shaped by the thoughts you think and the actions you take. Now, maybe what you've created isn't quite what you imagined, maybe it's the exact opposite of what you hoped for. Trust me, I get it. I’ve unintentionally called in the opposite of what I wanted more times than I can count. Our thoughts have the power to become reality, that is why this process has the potential to be so powerful if you let it. Your brain is like a 3D printer for your reality, so why not start feeding it the blueprints for the life you want?

Let’s get into it, shall we?

First things first, I feel that it’s crucial to start this off by saying that you cannot create or step into this ideal version of yourself from a state of disdain for your current or past self. You cannot become this dream version of yourself by hating where you are at right now. Period. The version of you that exists right now, is here for you to become the version of you that you are trying to create. The you that you are right now is the creator of the future you.

Understand?

All the past versions of you existed to get you to where you are now, have gratitude for them. Honor them. Show them compassion. They are helping you build something grand; it’s the making of you. It’s the continuous process of building yourself. Only by making peace with who you are now, will you be able to open yourself up to who you are supposed to become. You can’t manifest from the vibration of hate; hate creates resistance. It’s the beautiful law of attraction baby.

Law of Attraction: The belief that positive thoughts and actions cause good things to happen, and negative thoughts and actions cause bad things to happen. The Law of Attraction tells us that the universe will give us more of what we focus on.

Let me give you a visual (I’m a very visual person, so this was helpful for me). Take a look at the chart attached below. The goal is to manifest from the green and up.

Okay, now that we’re clear on that…

I briefly talked about creating the “Ideal Me” in step five of my first post —> 5 Steps to Get What You Want Out of This Year.

I will be going over everything I talked about in that post, but going more in-depth and making it extra juicy and full for you.

It’s time to start calling in the highest, most aligned version of yourself. A question I ask myself literally every day is, “How would the ideal version of me show up?” This question comes up most prominently when I want to snooze my alarm. It is helpful when making big decisions too, but let me tell you what, my bed has a hold on me, and it’s hard to get up and out of bed in the morning hahaha. If I want to be the kind of woman who wakes up with energy, follows through on my goals, and doesn’t hit ‘snooze’ 6 times? I have to start making choices like her.

The highest version of yourself is waiting—she’s ready for you to step into her. All you have to do is claim her. To do that, you need to start showing up as her. She’s not someone separate from you; she’s within you, waiting to be fully embodied. But to call her in, you first need to know who she truly is. So, let’s take some time to define her. Here are the questions I asked myself to figure this out…

Questions to ask yourself:

• What time does she wake up?

• How does my future self start her day? ⁣What habits does she have? ⁣

• What does she look like? Does she have short hair or long hair etc.?

• What does she wear? What’s her style?

• What does her energy feel like?

• How does she prioritize herself?

• What is she educated in?

• What does she do for fun?

• Where does she live? Is her space organized?

• What does she eat? Does she cook or eat out?

• Who does she spend her time with?

• How does she make her money? Does she work for herself?

• What does she spend her money on?

• How does she cope with stress?

• How does she define success, and how does it align with her values?

• Does she allow fear to hold her back from chasing her dreams?

• How does she end her day?

Now, I know there are a lot of questions here, and I absolutely recommend journaling about them on paper, but if that feels daunting to you, simply set aside 30-60 min to write out the questions and answer them in the notes app on your phone (you will be doing this anyway).

Cheat code: Use voice typing to make the process easier/faster.

After you have all of the questions and answers written down, the next step is to create a pinned note on your phone (if you didn’t start with this.) Copy and paste the question, and then the answer.

I’ll attach a photo of my note for reference (again super visual person over here.)

Next, I want you to print out that note from your phone, or you can use the lovely piece of paper you wrote these out on if that’s the route you started with. I want you to take this and hang it up somewhere; the point is to see it and read it all the time, so put it somewhere you will see it. Put it somewhere you can guarantee you will read it at least once a day. I have mine taped to the wall right next to where I do my makeup, that way when I’m getting ready for my day, I’m thinking about how the ideal me would show up.

If you don’t have the means to print this out, then read over it once a day from the note on your phone. Set an alarm on your phone maybe it’s at 9 pm every night before you get ready for bed, or 8 am as you sit in your car before going to work. Just make sure you read it and envision her, she deserves attention.

Side note: Something that I frequently do if writing is feeling too intense is to do a voice memo diary. Start a voice memo recording, ask the question, answer the question, and repeat. After you have talked through everything, you can then go through and copy everything down on paper or a note on your phone.

Creating a visual…

Of course, this just wouldn't be complete without creating a vision board. Your ideal you needs an entire Pinterest vision board yes, oh yes, she does. I swear I have a vision board for everything in my life, and I'm adding to it constantly.

For every single question that you ask yourself, there should be an image that goes along with it. For example, if you asked, “What time does she wake up?” and the answer was 7:00 a.m. There should be a picture of an alarm clock at 7:00 a.m. on your vision board. If you asked, “Does she have long or short hair?” and the answer was she had long, dark, full hair. There should be a picture of the most aesthetic, long, dark, and full head of hair that Pinterest has to offer on your vision board. (This is definitely on mine; that gorgeous hair is on its way to me, I swear.)

Are you picking up what I'm saying here? This part was the most fun for me. I love love love vision boarding. Hell, I’ll make you one if you send me the vibe. (I’m so serious; reach out if you want me to do this for you.)

Now, your vision board can just live in your Pinterest if that's how you want to do things, but I'm a little bit ✨extra ✨ so let me tell you what I did. I made my vision board on Pinterest, yes, and then I took all of the images from my Pinterest page, added them to Canva, and created a vision board collage. I set this to be the background for my computer (I also made a separate one to be the background for my phone.) So now I can't escape the vision board for the ideal me, every time I open my phone, it's in the background as I hop through apps, and every time I open my computer, it's the very first thing I see before logging in.

I think we can count this as exposure therapy, right?

Now for the icing on the cake…

I know I mentioned everything you just read in my previous post, so I want to add an extra layer here. It’s about creating a visualization of the ideal you, recording and walking yourself through a day in the life of the future you.

I have used visualization in my life for the past two years. It has been a tool for helping me call in amazing aligned relationships, opportunities, and desires. Honestly, I didn’t know if it would work when I first started, but here I am telling you to do it, so it must work.

This was a process I learned from my aunt Lyndsey (one of the amazing women who changed my life.) She is a well of wisdom when it comes to manifesting and a master of all things mindset I’ll link her Instagram HERE so you can go check her out for yourself.

Guided visualizations are so cool because they have the power to create new neural pathways in our brains (I’m telling you there is some serious wicked cool power here.)

Neural Pathways: The complex network of interconnected neurons in the brain and nervous system that transmit electrical signals and facilitate communication between different parts of the body.

Hearing your own voice speak the life you want out loud is powerful because our subconscious has no concept of time. It will believe what you say to be reality. By vividly imagining our desired outcome and self, we unlock the potential to reach our goals. It tells your subconscious mind to seek out things that are in line with what you have visualized yourself doing or becoming.

Who knew daydreaming could be so powerful, if you are an avid daydreamer like me, this is gold. Once you have your visualization down, and you can do it all the damn time. For example, I always daydream when I’m doing the dishes, which takes me roughly five minutes. But instead of daydreaming about something random, I am now doing it with purpose. That’s five spectacular minutes to call in what I want.

I mean seriously, how cool?

You already answered all of the journal prompts on how your ideal self shows up in the world, so now it's time to create what a day in the life of that version of you looks like.

Grab a journal, a pen, and get ready.

I want you to sit down and imagine how the ideal you would walk through a day in her life, but I want you to write it out like it's actually happening. For example instead of saying…

“She wakes up at 7:00 a.m. then goes outside to journal for 10 minutes.”

Say something more along the lines of this…

“I wake up at 7:00 a.m. feeling awake and rested, I get out of bed, grab my journal, and walk down the stairs to go sit outside for 10 minutes to write and enjoy my morning coffee.”

Write out what your entire day would look like, from start to finish. Don't be shy about the details.

How did you start your day? Did you have a morning routine?

Did you work out that day?

Do you follow a schedule? Is your day perfectly time blocked?

What did you eat for lunch? Did you have lunch alone?

What was your nighttime routine like? Did you make yourself a cup of tea, do some yoga, or watch a show?

After you write all of this down, I want you to record it as a voice memo on your phone and listen to it as frequently as you can. Yes, yes, I know listening to your voice can be scary and all, but just do it, I promise it will be worth it. Your voice is what makes it so powerful. If you really can't get over hearing your voice, ask yourself why, it's probably some form of a limiting belief that needs to be broken. So just listen to the damn thing okay 😉

My mistakes…

When I created my first visualization, I made the mistake of saying things that I thought I should say, and that I thought I should want. Instead of saying things that I actually wanted for myself, and that actually brought me joy. (At this point, I had not created the Ideal me.)

I felt like the visualization hadn't done much for me by the sixth-month mark. So I decided to rewrite it. This time everything I wrote I felt passionately that I wanted, not that I should want it, but that I actually wanted it. I was stunned by how fast what I was visualizing started to become reality.

You see, in my first visualization, I was trying to manifest from a place of shame and guilt. Thinking that I should want these things or that I should have these things already. In my second visualization, I was manifesting from a place of love and joy. It lit me up to listen to my visualization the second time, and I was so optimistic every time I listened to it. This is just an example of how powerful the emotional frequency chart that I listed above can be. It’s an example of how you can only manifest from a place of love and acceptance, and you cannot manifest from a place of fear and anxiety around a situation.

Press play on your dream self

So If you could design your ultimate character, your dream self, what would she be like? What skills would she have? What daily habits would she master? You’re not just designing her; you’re becoming her. Just like in any game, you level up by taking action, learning, growing, and showing up as her every day. You don’t have to wait for permission. You don’t have to hope it happens. You decide. You create. Before you know it, you’ll look in the mirror and realize she’s already you.

p.s. I’m so serious about creating a vision board for you. reach out if you would want help or have any questions;)

With Love,

Nevaeh